When Julie Metz’s husband died unexpectedly, she found herself a sudden widow with a six-year-old daughter. She then discovered that her husband had been unfaithful to her throughout their marriage. This is a candid and moving story of loss, grief, betrayal, and reinvention.

—Wendy Sheanindirector of Marketing at Simon & Schuster,

Her memoir of the year after her husband abruptly died is poignant, powerful, and absolutely riveting.

—Chris Bohjalianauthor of Midwives and Secrets of Eden

Julie Metz gives us a brave and fascinating postmortem on a seemingly happy marriage, creating an emotional detective story that is unforgettable.

—Elinor Lipmanauthor of My Latest Grievance

[Metz] brings refreshing candor to a startling tale.

—Janet MaslinThe New York Times

Heart-wrenching but triumphant.


Lyrical, haunting, and utterly gripping.


Julie Metz’s nervy memoir is astonishing and splendid….Metz is an emergency medical responder of the heart, a woman capable of throwing her own battered, disillusioned self a life-line. Perfection is awesome in the old, better sense of the word. I loved it.

—Karen Karboauthor of The Diamond Lane and the Kick-Ass Women series

The seed of Perfection was rage, yet Metz’s fury is not ugly, not even vengeful. Instead it provides this book’s beautiful testimony that instead of killing the subject the author can do something that diminishes him even more totally. She can forgive him and move on. That accomplishment, via prose, leaves me breathless.

—Sarah Mangusoauthor of The Two Kinds of Decay

The last time I became so engrossed in a book, it was written by Tolstoy. But Anna Karenina was made up. Perfection is—unbelievably, thrillingly, heartbreakingly—true.

—Deborah Copakenauthor of Shutterbabe and The Red Book

Perfection is an addictive book — don’t start it if you need to do anything for a few hours.

Jesse Kornbluthwriter and editor of HeadButler.comThe Goodmen Project

It is impossible to put Perfection down as we follow Julie Metz through her true story of love, lies, loss, and moving forward. Her raw and brave writing makes you want to cheer Metz on as she pieces her life back together, one beautiful sentence at a time.

—Marian Fontanaauthor of Widow’s Walk and The Middle of the Bed

Perfection is a nuanced, spellbinding portrait of an extraordinarily complex marriage. Julie Metz has written a literary page-turner that is at once entertaining and moving.

—Hilary Blackeditor of The Secret Currency Of Love

Julie Metz’s story is reminder that we are all vulnerable to human frailty, both in those we love and in ourselves. She writes with confidence, grace, and the raw humility that can only come from having arrived to a new understanding of herself through her past.

—Kerry Cohenauthor of Loose Girl

A fascinating memoir by a woman who, after learning of her much-loved late husband’s history of affairs, decides to confront her former rivals.


Readers will be mesmerized.

USA Today

You’ll be absorbed by the real-life sleuthing in Perfection, a riveting memoir about a widow who discovers that her late husband lived a deceptive double life.

Real Simple

Metz’s Perfection chronicles with lapidary precision one woman’s climb back to happiness…The journey is a painful one, but Ms. Metz is much the stronger for having survived to recount it.

—Julie Powellauthor of Julie and Julia

Metz gives us Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking with the reality check of Nora Ephron’s Heartburn. An enthralling, heart-pounding, unforgettable read.

—Jennifer Belleauthor of High Maintenance and Little Stalker

In lyrical, moving prose, we’re treated to a powerful story of love, infidelity, grief—and starting over.

Working Mother

Dark and affecting.

Publishers Weekly

This is an extremely brave and honest book, a book whose very raw emotions have been distilled into reflective and painterly prose.

—Noelle Oxenhandlerauthor of The Wishing Year


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